Loving Well

Loving Well

The Divorce Club

The Divorce Club

It was the type of abandon unique to crisis and duress — when going kamikaze seems like a sound and wise decision.When I reentered the dating scene at 42, I felt like Rip Van Winkle. Like I had been sleeping for the entirety of my marriage and that, upon my waking,...

Letter(s) to a Couple in Crisis

Letter(s) to a Couple in Crisis

January 29th 2024 It has been a while since I have written. In the past, I have stayed in touch with updates, letting you know about essays I have published with The Gottman Institute or announcements concerning happenings at my center, The Northampton Center for...

Laying Down Our Weapons

Laying Down Our Weapons

What is relational intelligence? I define relational intelligence (RQ) as being both intra- and inter-personally skillful. Intrapersonal intelligence is of primary importance because healthy relating starts with knowing oneself. One can undoubtedly obtain behavioral...

A Better Marriage Means Better Health

A Better Marriage Means Better Health

Reap rewards from a stronger relationship using these three strategies. A happy marriage is like a tonic for your health. People who feel loved, respected, supported, and connected to their spouse enjoy everything from enhanced heart health and a stronger immune...

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Interview with Ian Kerner When a couple first comes to sex therapist Ian Kerner for a session, he always asks them to tell him about the last time they had sex. “Most couples wait far too long to come to sex therapy and are in pain,” Kerner says. “They’ve been...

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