Discovering an affair can be a painful and confusing experience. Discovering amid a global pandemic can be even worse. And if you’ve been cheated on before, it can trigger an emotional response characteristic of PTSD.
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing the newest member of our NCCT team, Kasia Novak, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), who brings a bounty of insight on the intersection of family systems and couples therapy.
If you and your partner have a sexual desire discrepancy (SDD), a term psychologists use to describe when one person wants sex more frequently than the other, you’re not alone.
Here I sit, on the cusp of Father’s Day, feeling both with and without Father — while the earth has a fever and pirates run amuck.
Amid this confusing, heartbreaking, and unsettling time, we are now, as a nation, face-to-face with another enemy. One that has been with us far longer than the coronavirus or stay-at-home order.
If you or your partner has ADHD, you may be experiencing an extra layer of challenge. With 8.1% of American adults diagnosed with ADHD, it’s no surprise that relationships can take a hit. Whether you are the person with ADHD or love someone who has the diagnosis, ADHD affects you both in profound, understandable, and treatable ways.
When my daughter was two, she found a bumblebee lying on our stone pathway. It was late August in New England – when gold-trimmed monarch cocoons dangle under milkweed, and sleeping pompoms of woolly bear caterpillars nestle in leaves.
COVID-19 is unique in that it is simultaneously resulting in trauma to us collectively, and to many of us as individuals in how we are hit directly by it. It’s poking at grief, gratitude, and guilt concurrently. And because the ramifications of it are still in process, the cumulative losses and gains are immeasurable and unknown.
What happens when you navigate painful emotions differently than your partner? David Kessler, author and grief expert, states that couples don’t divorce because of insurmountable hardships or loss, couples divorce because they judge each other’s grief.
As information concerning COVID-19 continues to come out erratically, it seems nobody is in full agreement on how to handle things. On a macro level, we see each US state implementing varying degrees of responsiveness and caution. On a micro level, our family units must make similar calls. It’s challenging for any parent to know where to draw the line.
In my latest video, I talk about how your relationship can be steady and strong as you weather the storm of COVID-19. I provide tools and insights that will support you in bringing your best self to the challenges that quarantine and stay-at-home orders present.
Yes, now more than ever, your insurance will cover couples therapy, and you should make good use of it. Relationships can be hard even under the best of circumstances. But with the crisis of COVID-19, many couples are feeling hit from all directions. There is financial stress, parenting challenges, fear of the unknown, and few resources to recharge.
Research shows that the best way to keep yourself and your family healthy is to prioritize supporting the well being of your relationship(s).
For parents, it’s stressful, navigating a flood of challenges, as Covid-19 promises to come in turn to each of our communities. For separated or divorced co-parents, the challenges of “social distancing” are compounded with different social-emotional layers than our partnered friends face. And we feel that difference.
Keeping the Faith: For Christian Couples Trying to Discern if Couples Counseling is the right choice
Couples seek marriage counseling for many reasons. Strained communication, unresolved conflict, breaches in trust, and dispassionate sex lives are just a sampling. Whatever the motivation, couples therapy is a courageous choice; one that could be the most eye-opening and life-changing journey yet.
Recovering From an Affair? A Rare Opportunity:
NCCT Director, Kerry Lusignan is offering a free, two-day private retreat at our center in Northampton, MA. To ensure quality of care, Kerry will also be offering a complimentary three-hour follow up intensive 4-8 weeks after the retreat.
As anxiety becomes heightened around the COVID-19 related illness and the implications for travel and being in public places intensify, we want to share some adjustments and recommendations we are making at the Northampton Center for Couples Therapy to support you.
It’s 9 am on Valentine’s morning, and I’m sipping tea and caught in a quandary. I’m feeling the pressure to say something meaningful or witty, wise, and kind, and on this day, it ought to be about love.
After a full year of training, studying, consultation, and implementation, I am thrilled to announce that I am officially a Certified Daring Way Facilitator (CDWF).
As for the impact of traditional gender roles on couples, on society—as for conversations about patriarchy and its effects—psychotherapists seemed largely to have lost interest.