Loving Well

Loving Well

Laying Down Our Weapons

Laying Down Our Weapons

What is relational intelligence? I define relational intelligence (RQ) as being both intra- and inter-personally skillful. Intrapersonal intelligence is of primary importance because healthy relating starts with knowing oneself. One can undoubtedly obtain behavioral...

A Better Marriage Means Better Health

A Better Marriage Means Better Health

Reap rewards from a stronger relationship using these three strategies. A happy marriage is like a tonic for your health. People who feel loved, respected, supported, and connected to their spouse enjoy everything from enhanced heart health and a stronger immune...

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Interview with Ian Kerner When a couple first comes to sex therapist Ian Kerner for a session, he always asks them to tell him about the last time they had sex. “Most couples wait far too long to come to sex therapy and are in pain,” Kerner says. “They’ve been...

The Emotional Lives of Men

The Emotional Lives of Men

I've been thinking a lot about men in relationships. About how challenges like work, marriage, and parenting affect our lives and our hearts. As I gear up to launch the Northampton Center for Couples Therapy's newest men's group (Men Helping Men), I upgraded my...

When It Behooves You to Be Wrong

When It Behooves You to Be Wrong

In the land of uncertainty, curiosity is a pretty badass skill

In the arena of romantic love, I have never understood the aversion to wrongness. Never entirely got why so many people seem to find it preferable to be correct. Don’t get me wrong (no pun intended); there are situations in life where trusting your gut and going with your instincts have merit.

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