Loving Well

Loving Well

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Writing—and Rewriting—Your Sex Script

Interview with Ian Kerner When a couple first comes to sex therapist Ian Kerner for a session, he always asks them to tell him about the last time they had sex. “Most couples wait far too long to come to sex therapy and are in pain,” Kerner says. “They’ve been...

The Emotional Lives of Men

The Emotional Lives of Men

I've been thinking a lot about men in relationships. About how challenges like work, marriage, and parenting affect our lives and our hearts. As I gear up to launch the Northampton Center for Couples Therapy's newest men's group (Men Helping Men), I upgraded my...

When It Behooves You to Be Wrong

When It Behooves You to Be Wrong

In the land of uncertainty, curiosity is a pretty badass skill

In the arena of romantic love, I have never understood the aversion to wrongness. Never entirely got why so many people seem to find it preferable to be correct. Don’t get me wrong (no pun intended); there are situations in life where trusting your gut and going with your instincts have merit.

Optimize Your Online Experience

Optimize Your Online Experience

We sincerely hope you and yours are well as we continue to navigate this path together. As you likely know, NCCT has shifted our practice exclusively to online therapy for the time being. While many clients understandably wonder if online therapy (a.k.a. telehealth)...

Stay or Leave

Stay or Leave

Should I stay, or should I go now? If I go, there will be trouble. And if I stay, it will be double. The Clash lead vocalist Mick Jones sings these words in the iconic 1981 punk rock song, "Should I Stay or Should I Go." It's the epitome of relationship limbo hell...

How to Get Out of Relationship Limbo Hell

How to Get Out of Relationship Limbo Hell

Imagine a car wedged up on a curb with its tires elevated off the ground, unable to get traction to move in either direction. The engine revs, and the wheels spin, but the car doesn't move. It's stuck. In the same way, we can get stuck in our relationships when we're...

How To Save Your Marriage

How To Save Your Marriage

Couples seek therapy for a variety of reasons: they’re fighting too much, not having sex enough, or there’s been an affair. Yet the most common reason couples come to therapy, what we call the “presenting issue,” is to save their marriage. A Google search of “how to...

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