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Loving Well

Loving Well

Stay or Leave

Stay or Leave

Should I stay, or should I go now? If I go, there will be trouble. And if I stay, it will be double. The Clash lead vocalist Mick Jones sings these words in the iconic 1981 punk rock song, "Should I Stay or Should I Go." It's the epitome of relationship limbo hell...

How to Get Out of Relationship Limbo Hell

How to Get Out of Relationship Limbo Hell

Imagine a car wedged up on a curb with its tires elevated off the ground, unable to get traction to move in either direction. The engine revs, and the wheels spin, but the car doesn't move. It's stuck. In the same way, we can get stuck in our relationships when we're...

How To Save Your Marriage

How To Save Your Marriage

Couples seek therapy for a variety of reasons: they’re fighting too much, not having sex enough, or there’s been an affair. Yet the most common reason couples come to therapy, what we call the “presenting issue,” is to save their marriage. A Google search of “how to...

This is What Trauma Does

This is What Trauma Does

There is a thin line between sacrificing a lamb and striking a deal with the Devil. We give up whole parts of ourselves to belong in our families. In turn, for those of us who dare to come home to ourselves, we risk losing our family and severing the ties that bind us.

Connection Doesn’t Have To End When Sex Does

Connection Doesn’t Have To End When Sex Does

Scan the cover of any tabloid magazine while waiting in line at the grocery store and you’ll probably see advice for how to be better at foreplay or how to make your partner orgasm, but you probably won’t see anything about what comes after sex—a period psychologists call the “sexual afterglow.”

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

Keeping promises indeed builds trust and is essential. But there are many types of promises. Some sworn out loud, pinkies crossed, blood bonded — others dwell in the spaces between words and live out their days as acts: Devotion, steadfastness, and presence, to name a few.

All in the Family

All in the Family

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing the newest member of our NCCT team, Kasia Novak, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), who brings a bounty of insight on the intersection of family systems and couples therapy.

Give. Learn. Speak. Listen

Give. Learn. Speak. Listen

Amid this confusing, heartbreaking, and unsettling time, we are now, as a nation, face-to-face with another enemy. One that has been with us far longer than the coronavirus or stay-at-home order.

Love and ADHD

Love and ADHD

If you or your partner has ADHD, you may be experiencing an extra layer of challenge. With 8.1% of American adults diagnosed with ADHD, it’s no surprise that relationships can take a hit. Whether you are the person with ADHD or love someone who has the diagnosis, ADHD affects you both in profound, understandable, and treatable ways.