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Loving Well

Loving Well

How To Save Your Marriage

How To Save Your Marriage

Couples seek therapy for a variety of reasons: they’re fighting too much, not having sex enough, or there’s been an affair. Yet the most common reason couples come to therapy, what we call the “presenting issue,” is to save their marriage. A Google search of “how to...

This is What Trauma Does

This is What Trauma Does

There is a thin line between sacrificing a lamb and striking a deal with the Devil. We give up whole parts of ourselves to belong in our families. In turn, for those of us who dare to come home to ourselves, we risk losing our family and severing the ties that bind us.

Connection Doesn’t Have To End When Sex Does

Connection Doesn’t Have To End When Sex Does

Scan the cover of any tabloid magazine while waiting in line at the grocery store and you’ll probably see advice for how to be better at foreplay or how to make your partner orgasm, but you probably won’t see anything about what comes after sex—a period psychologists call the “sexual afterglow.”

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

Keeping promises indeed builds trust and is essential. But there are many types of promises. Some sworn out loud, pinkies crossed, blood bonded — others dwell in the spaces between words and live out their days as acts: Devotion, steadfastness, and presence, to name a few.

All in the Family

All in the Family

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing the newest member of our NCCT team, Kasia Novak, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT), who brings a bounty of insight on the intersection of family systems and couples therapy.

Give. Learn. Speak. Listen

Give. Learn. Speak. Listen

Amid this confusing, heartbreaking, and unsettling time, we are now, as a nation, face-to-face with another enemy. One that has been with us far longer than the coronavirus or stay-at-home order.

Love and ADHD

Love and ADHD

If you or your partner has ADHD, you may be experiencing an extra layer of challenge. With 8.1% of American adults diagnosed with ADHD, it’s no surprise that relationships can take a hit. Whether you are the person with ADHD or love someone who has the diagnosis, ADHD affects you both in profound, understandable, and treatable ways.

Trauma – Holding Hope and Sorrow Simultaneously

Trauma – Holding Hope and Sorrow Simultaneously

COVID-19 is unique in that it is simultaneously resulting in trauma to us collectively, and to many of us as individuals in how we are hit directly by it. It’s poking at grief, gratitude, and guilt concurrently. And because the ramifications of it are still in process, the cumulative losses and gains are immeasurable and unknown.

Judging Each Other’s Grief – Video

Judging Each Other’s Grief – Video

What happens when you navigate painful emotions differently than your partner? David Kessler, author and grief expert, states that couples don’t divorce because of insurmountable hardships or loss, couples divorce because they judge each other’s grief.

Co-parenting – Divorce and COVID-19, Part 2

Co-parenting – Divorce and COVID-19, Part 2

As information concerning COVID-19 continues to come out erratically, it seems nobody is in full agreement on how to handle things. On a macro level, we see each US state implementing varying degrees of responsiveness and caution. On a micro level, our family units must make similar calls. It’s challenging for any parent to know where to draw the line.

How To Stop Your Marriage From Falling Apart

How To Stop Your Marriage From Falling Apart

In my latest video, I talk about how your relationship can be steady and strong as you weather the storm of COVID-19. I provide tools and insights that will support you in bringing your best self to the challenges that quarantine and stay-at-home orders present.

Will My Insurance Cover Couples Therapy?

Will My Insurance Cover Couples Therapy?

Yes, now more than ever, your insurance will cover couples therapy, and you should make good use of it. Relationships can be hard even under the best of circumstances. But with the crisis of COVID-19, many couples are feeling hit from all directions. There is financial stress, parenting challenges, fear of the unknown, and few resources to recharge.