Episode 1: Division of Household Labor

Today I’m sharing a guest post from Inez Cordoba, our in-house sex therapy consultant. Inez is a licensed social worker (LICSW) and AASECT-certified sex therapist whose work focuses on couples, and she’s also the host of a new podcast, Being Alive.

In this piece, Inez introduces the heart of the podcast and the questions she hears most often in her clinical work—around desire differences, division of labor, emotional disconnection, and the quiet resentments that accumulate over time. Her approach is thoughtful, research-informed, and deeply aligned with the work we do here, which is why I’m pleased to share this with our community.

Which brings us to today’s guest post.

Drumroll, please.

Here’s Inez Cordoba:

I’m so excited to share something I’ve made just for you, Yes, you!

I wanted to create something more accessible. Something that could reach you wherever you are, whether you’re folded into your couch on a quiet Sunday morning or driving to work with relationship questions swirling in your mind.

Welcome to Being Alive is my new podcast: a friendly corner of the internet where modern intimacy finds its language.

I’m Inez Cordoba, a licensed couples therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist whose hosted thousands of therapy-room conversations about mismatched desire, emotional disconnection, sexual compatibility, infidelity, and everything in between. And I’ve learned this: the struggles you’re facing? They’re much more common than you think.

Welcome to Being Alive isn’t your typical relationship podcast filled with recycled advice or pop psychology sound bites. It’s therapeutically informed relationship advice and adult sex education. The kind that’s grounded in research, backed by science, and shaped by thousands of hours of real work with real couples. Think of it as earnest guidance curated to answer your biggest relationship questions—the stuff you’ve been avoiding for years—the conversations that feel too vulnerable, too messy, or too complicated to start—we’re talking about it!

Because here’s what I know after working exclusively with couples: most people aren’t struggling because they’ve lost their love. They’re struggling because no one ever taught them how to love under today’s impossible expectations. And that small, invisible space between you and your partner? The one that holds all your connections, desires, and aliveness? It needs language. It needs tending to. And it deserves your compassionate attention.

Episode One is live now, and we’re starting with one of the most common issues couples bring

to therapy: division of labor in households. If you’ve ever felt resentful about household chores, overwhelmed by invisible labor, or stuck in an unfair dynamic with your partner, you’re not alone.

This episode unpacks why this issue is so deeply complicated, exploring the layers of accumulated resentment, gendered patterns, and built-in habits that keep couples trapped in painful cycles.

Whether you’re the one feeling overworked and over-functioning, or you’re the one being labeled as passive or forgetful, this episode holds space for both experiences with empathy and practical insight. You’ll walk away with tools to start conversations you’ve been avoiding and language to express what’s really going on beneath the surface.

My hope? To help you feel less isolated in your struggles. To give you permission to explore your intimacy challenges, mismatched desire, emotional disconnection, and everything in between without shame or pressure. Through this podcast, you’ll gain relationship insights, navigate desire discrepancy, and reconnect with what makes you feel most alive in your partnership.

I bring curiosity, compassion, clarity, and yes, a little humor!

Ready to dive in? Listen to Episode One now and discover why division of labor is about so much more than who does the dishes.

And here’s the best part: this podcast is just the beginning. I want to hear from you. What relationship questions are keeping you up at night? What intimacy challenges feel too big to tackle alone? Submit your questions, and you might hear them answered in an upcoming episode. Because this isn’t just my show, it’s a conversation.

So, let’s start the conversation you’ve been avoiding for years.