Relationship Matters
Don’t Walk on a Broken Foot: Getting Relationship Help Sooner Rather Than Later
In fact, seeking help sooner is both supportive and preventive, and helps couples learn key relational skills before a crisis occurs. It is far easier to prevent negative patterns and the buildup of resentment earlier than to wait until these patterns have calcified.
What Can I Do Instead of Couples Therapy (Here’s an Option)
Contrary to what many marriage therapists will tell you, couples therapy is not rocket science. In my couples therapy fantasies, everyone would attend couples therapy for preventative and wellness care. We’d see couples for a quick tune-up and send them on their way....
15 Years, 4500 Couples
In 2010, when I founded NCCT, I built it from the ground up, starting with a one-room office and a dream. That dream was to establish a center devoted exclusively to helping couples from “cradle to grave.”
Overcoming Resentment and the Museum of Hurt
Sophia and Anthony say they love each other, and with two children have a lot at stake. But they have come to couples therapy because they are not happy. They both agree: there’s no joy.
What Happens When We Don’t Take Risks in Our Relationships?
Prefer to listen or watch? Click here to access the Loving Well Audio/Video version of our blog!Ted and Meghan have a lovely weekend tradition: on Saturday mornings, they wake up early, make blueberry pancakes, get back in bed to read their books, and fall back...
Politics, Pawns, and Perpetual Problems
In our current political climate, many couples struggle to discuss differing opinions. Estimates from several sources suggest that approximately 25% of couples have substantially different political ideologies. Some couples struggle to have a conversation about...
Resentment killed the cat…curiosity saved it
I frequently have clients who can’t seem to avoid resentment toward their partner when faced with an important “either-or” life decision. They report feeling compelled to go along with a decision their partner made for fear of losing the relationship, or because it...
Navigating Relationships In The Age Of Social Media
Anxiety and burnout are at an all-time high. We rely more than ever on being connected through screens—from texts and social media to zooming and online gaming. All have the capacity to make us more connected, and for some were a true lifeline during the many months...
Facing The Monster…Together
Jessica and Tory have two kids and very demanding jobs. Jessica is tired of taking on the brunt of the household labor. She is the one who drives the kids around to soccer practice and piano lessons, does the laundry, and plans the meals.
What About the Holidays Prompts Us to Prioritize Self-Care?
It’s that time of year. Pick up any popular magazine, and you’ll find it filled with tips for practicing “self-care” throughout the holidays. It makes sense; between the increased stressors of family, shopping and spending, parenting, and rituals
Being Grateful for the Tough Stuff
As we round the last corner of the calendar year and enter the holiday season, many of us will find ourselves engaged in traditions emphasizing the value and practice of gratitude.
Reduced Fee Couples Therapy Openings
Back in 2021, during the throes of COVID-19, I made the difficult decision to cease all contracts with health insurance panels and transition NCCT to a sliding fee-for-service model. My reasons for doing such were complex, but ultimately, it came down to what I...
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The Burden of [Not] Being a Burden
Years ago, I attended a couples’ workshop with Stan Tatkin, the Founder of the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT). During the workshop, Stan asked us to turn toward our partners, look them in the eye, and recite the words “I take you as my burden.”
Is It Trauma Bonding or Love?
The line between love and hate, passion and pain (especially if you have experienced trauma) can feel as thin as a sliver. The reasons for this are complex, but what is essential to know is that when researchers put two strangers on a perilous, swinging bridge together…
The Divorce Club
It was the type of abandon unique to crisis and duress — when going kamikaze seems like a sound and wise decision.When I reentered the dating scene at 42, I felt like Rip Van Winkle. Like I had been sleeping for the entirety of my marriage and that, upon my waking,...