I’m a Couples Therapist: Here’s How I’d Handle Donald and Joe

by Kerry Lusignan | Sep 30, 2020 | Couples Therapy

We can discuss the presidential debate between Biden and Trump from a multitude of angles. We can analyze it from the vantage point of history, political science, or social justice. We can fact check it or hone in on themes. We can comment based on our limited...

What it Means to Securely Function When Your Partner Won’t

by Kerry Lusignan | Sep 21, 2020 | Couples Therapy

Sometimes in life, we must choose between two torments. “I’m asking you to leave.” I can barely move my lips — they’re all tremble; this is what happens when you live in a cage — everything atrophies, even the delicate flesh of your mouth. The rusty cell door stands...

On The Importance of Breaking Promises

by Kerry Lusignan | Aug 24, 2020 | Anger, Marriage

I’ve been a promise keeper for most of my life, only breaking promises when left with no other choice – when a murmur in my heart began pounding so loud that it overruled me. There was the relationship that lacked kindness and mutuality – the friendship laced in...

Our Father’s Tears

by Kerry Lusignan | Jun 12, 2020 | Parenting, Relationships

Here I sit, on the cusp of Father’s Day, feeling both with and without Father — while the earth has a fever and pirates run amuck. I remember my father crying. I’m not sure when or at what age, though I could venture a guess — I was (perhaps) six. It was over our...

Mothering in Times of Sorrow

by Kerry Lusignan | May 9, 2020 | Parenting, Relationships

When my daughter was two, she found a bumblebee lying on our stone pathway. It was late August in New England – when gold-trimmed monarch cocoons dangle under milkweed, and sleeping pompoms of woolly bear caterpillars nestle in leaves.  To the naked eye, the bee...