Rachel Ban, MSW, LICSW
“An ongoing passion of mine is to help couples through difficult moments. Sometimes it’s with people coming out of the haze of raising children, or just putting in years and years together and looking over the breakfast table and wondering, ‘Why am I here with you?” The best part is bringing all the evidence-based science of relationships to the problem and seeing a change, sometimes just over a two-day retreat. I love helping partners find that glimmer of hope after not feeling it for so long.”
Rachel combines a fierce intelligence with a calm equanimity. Her focus is deep, while her manner is preternaturally good humored, relaxed and hard to ruffle. Rachel is able to maintain her poise in high conflict situations and can help a couple balance and find their way back to their better selves and to the important conversations. She balances her compassionate stance with a rigorous commitment to lifelong learning in evidence-based treatments.
Ask me about: being in a bilingual, bi-cultural relationship. (Which, by the way, I think *all* relationships are; it’s just often not apparent on the surface of things. We all use words in idiosyncratic ways, and have our own culture rooted in our family and personal experience).
Ever since I was young, I’ve been: A contemplative student of people, relationship dynamics and feelings; A lover of good food, good friends and dance.
Favorite quote: “Love is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise. If love were only a feeling, there would be no basis for the promise to love each other forever. A feeling comes and it may go…Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a “standing in,” not a “falling for.” In the most general way, the active character of love can be described by stating that love is primarily giving, not receiving.” ― Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
Favorite kind of couples: I love working with couples who come in for intensives. There is something incredibly powerful in the experience of having 2-3 days to focus deeply with one couple. There is an alchemy between their expertise in their lives and pain with the tools and training that I bring that leads us to somewhere new.
Services offered: Rachel specializes in couples retreats and intensives. She provides therapy in English and Spanish.
MSW in Clinical Social Work – University of Southern California
Gottman Method Therapy – Level I and II
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – Completed Externship and Core Skills
Certified Reflective Parenting Program Leader
Pragmatic Experiential Couples Therapy – Trained by Brent Atkinson
Out of Control Sexual Behavior – Trained by Douglas Braun-Harvey
Additional Training in: Discernment Counseling, Sex Therapy for Couples, Gestalt